People Are Sharing Valuable Lessons They Learned From Having Roommates

Many people on social media are giving tips on what they've learned about living with roommates.

U/dislimb posed the question to Reddit's infamous r/AskReddit forum, "What's something you learned from having roommates?" The popular post has received over 8,000 upvotes and 3,000 comments.

U/sweetiebeetiee said, "Everyone has a different understanding of 'clean' and 'cleaning.'" Their comment received over 17,000 upvotes.

"Yeah. My roommate dusted all the time, whereas dust didn't really bother me. He also left dirty dishes everywhere, which I found disgusting, but he didn't really mind at all," u/HillInTheDistance responded to the popular comment above.

"Good friends do not always make good roommates," u/Swoop_McCarthy warned, also receiving thousands of upvotes.

U/strangeladyinhere replied to the above comment, "Same here. And today we're no longer friends. We've been friends for 10+ years. I discovered her toxic behaviors behind closed doors. Hard lesson I learned."

People share valuable lessons living with roommates
The followers of Reddit's r/AskReddit forum share the lessons they've learned while living with roommates. AntonioGuillem/iStock / Getty Images Plus

"A lot more people than I realized have had their parents/maids/caretakers do almost everything for them," u/throwaway31096 explained.

"I had a roommate once who legitimately did not know how to clean a bathroom. It was his first time on his own (19/20ish), and I guess his parents just never made him do it himself," u/sofingclever replied.

U/ejsanders shared his story, "I learned how to cook very nice meals from scratch from having roommates. Whenever I had frozen dinners or something like that, they would steal them and eat them leaving me with nothing and would never replace them. Buy raw ingredients instead, and they wouldn't put out the effort to do anything with them."

"We are all horrible people in our own unique and insufferable ways. But in the end of the day, we are still just people trying to live in the same room/house/flat," u/tangent90 said.

"Thin walls ruin sleep," u/kaden_istoxic exclaimed.

U/IndivuidalPlenty5557 shared an insightful tip: "If at all possible, always make sure you have a plan in case things suddenly go south. You cannot always trust the other person to do what they are supposed to do (like pay their portion for bills)."

"Setting boundaries are more important than you'd think," u/apple1234boo wrote.

"Never live with someone who 1.) can't take care of themselves 2.) openly has anger issues that affects their day-to-day situations 3.) has no financial foundation to fall back on," u/electricthunderc**t explained.

Finding the right roommate can be difficult. Before starting the journey, it's good to know exactly what you're looking for in a roomie. According to U.S. News & World Report, ask friends. Living with friends can be a slippery slope, so it's good to ask for recommendations from family and friends to get another perspective.

If you're meeting someone new, interview them and be sure to ask the right questions including their lifestyle and what they're into, including different hobbies and their career. Be honest about costs and get everything in writing.

Are you moving out of your family's house and planning on living alone? A big tip is to make sure you can financially afford it. Budgeting is very useful when living on your own, per When living on your own, the site also suggests knowing how to do basic cleaning including vacuuming and dusting and learning how to do laundry and simple cooking. Also, have a family member, friend or moving company help with getting your things from one home to your new one.