Pregnant Woman Lying About Baby Name to 'Guilt Tripping' Mom-in-Law Cheered

A mom-to-be has been applauded online for feeding her mother-in-law a fake name for their baby girl, due to be born next month.

The pregnant woman revealed why she lied on Reddit's popular Am I The A**hole forum, under username u/loawren, as she explained that she, 23, and her fiancé, 25, were "really excited" about their first child.

She said their families have been excited and helping them plan, along with her fiancé's mom, her future mother-in-law.

She wrote: "She's a very stubborn person and hasn't really accepted me as apart of the family yet, she always tells my fiancé how he could do so much better than me and that he's fallen into the trap of having "my" child.

File photo of baby names.
File photo of baby names. A mom-to-be has been praised for feeding her mother-in-law a fake baby name. Liudmila Chernetska/Getty Images

"It's hurt me a lot and my fiancé has had a talk to her about it but she still hasn't apologised or anything so I just tend to ignore it now.

"She's also one of them mums who posts every little detail of their life to Facebook like when my fiancé proposed she was straight to Facebook before we could announce it ourselves."

As the birth approached, the parents-to-be landed on the "perfect name" for their little girl, but her fiancé "slipped up" by accidentally telling his mom they'd made a decision.

She said: "She's been non stop messaging us and calling us to find out the name, we don't want to tell her until the baby is born so that it doesn't ruin the surprise and the whole of Facebook finds out before we are comfortable telling everyone.

"She tried guilt tripping my fiancé by telling him how he's hurting her by not telling his own mother the name of her grandchild, that he doesn't love him and that we (especially me) are gonna try and keep her from seeing the baby.

"I'm not sure why she would think that as nothing we have said has suggested it. To stop her from getting on my fiancé's back I wrote a message saying that if she wants to know she can't post it on Facebook, she agreed and I told her a fake name. 5 minutes later into checking FB."

It seems the fake name they fed her was "Charlotte," as her mom-in-law wrote online: "I can't believe I'm going to be a granny to baby Charlotte next month. So proud of (fiancé's name) and his partner!"

Fuming, the dad-to-be called up his mom, and revealed the truth about the name. Loawren continued: "My fiancé was furious and called her and told her that she was wrong to announce it. She said that she was so overjoyed by it that she couldn't resist.

"He told her how that wasn't even the name and that we aren't gonna tell her until she's born and hung up. It's been a few days and my fiancé has been getting texts from her saying that she didn't mean and that I'm the AH for telling her the wrong name.

"Her words were 'Who even tells their FMIL the wrong name of their grandchild?'"

The post, which can be read here, has amassed more than 12,000 upvotes since being posted on Friday.

People overwhelmingly sided with the pregnant woman, as -Siris99 pointed out: "NTA. Who gives the wrong name? Someone who knew she was going to do exactly what she did."

FinnNoodle wrote: "The problem is that they only waited five minutes to let her know...they should have let her go the whole month. Imagine the embarrassment after a month about bragging about a fake name."

YoshiPikachu commented: "Exactly this. I actually think it's funny that you did that. Hopefully it will teach her a lesson. NTA."

Who even tells their FMIL the wrong name of their grandchild?"
Mother-in-law

SnooAvocados6720 thought: "Exactly! NTA OP, you and your husband should talk to MIL now about your rules and expectations for when the baby arrives! (such as not dropping by unannounced whenever she wants, etc). head her off now, hopefully less headache later..."

Mini_mimi_mouse advised: "NTA.... May I suggest "forgetting" to tell her about the birth until you've gotten out of the hospital and are ready to announce it yourself and have visitors?"

Libre-m replied: "Agreed. MIL hasn't learned anything and will continue to post things inappropriately on Facebook. Better yet, let her find out on Facebook since she loves it so much."

ABeggyChooser suggested: "A nice touch would have been to tell FMIL the name was something outrageous like sunflower or moon beam."

While ScorchieSong added: "I'd be tempted to put her on a disinformation diet, so she either shares fake news or has to deduce what's real and what's not before posting."

The chart below, provided by Statista, shows why some parents regret baby names.

Infographic: Why some parents regret their childrens' names | Statista You will find more infographics at Statista

Although she didn't reveal where they're based, the U.S. Social Security Administration (SSA) revealed the top boys' and girls' names for 2021.

For girls the most popular choice is Olivia, followed by Emma, and in third place is the title the mom-to-be used as misdirection—Charlotte.

In fourth place is Amelia, then Ava, Sophia, Isabella, Mia, then Evelyn and finally Harper.

Meanwhile for boys, in pole position was Liam, followed by Noah, then Oliver, Elijah and in fifth place is James. Making up the top 10 is William, Benjamin, Lucas, Henry, then Theodore.

Newsweek reached out to u/loawren for comment.

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