Sister-in-Law Paid $500 to Babysit Niece Slated for Breaking Privacy Rules

The internet has backed a woman who told off her sister-in-law for putting a picture of her baby on social media, when she clearly stated she was against doing this.

In a post shared Sunday on Reddit, the new mother, who goes by the username u/GothMomLife, said that since her daughter was born three months ago, she and her husband have rules that their families need to follow around her. And the biggest rule is no social media.

About three weeks ago, she asked her sister-in-law to babysit her daughter, paying her $500 for three days' service. But after a few days she found out that her sister-in-law had posted a picture of her baby on Facebook, and she wasn't happy about it.

"I went on my Facebook and saw my daughter's photo with the caption 'First Facebook photo of my niece, is she adorable.' I saw red. I called her and demanded that she delete the photo and how she'll never babysit my daughter ever again.

"My husband and I went home. I picked up my daughter and she told me how dumb it was for having that rule. She told me how I don't love my daughter enough to post about her."

The mother then said they had a big argument, after which her sister-in-law wrote a "huge post about [how] she isn't deleting the photo and how horrible [the poster is] as a mother, calling her an a**hole for yelling at her over a photo."

Sister-in-law Broke Mom's Social Media Rule
Reddit users sided with a woman who told off her sister-in-law for putting a picture of her baby online, despite being told not to. Wavebreak Media/Getty Images

According to the Family Online Safety Institute (FOSI), parents, as well as all family members, should think twice before posting pictures of their children and should give them the choice to decide their social media identity later in life.

A FOSI research report from 2015, "Parents, Privacy and Technology Use," dealt with how parents think about their digital role modeling. It found that 19 percent of parents have posted something online about their child that the child might find embarrassing in the future.

The post was first shared on the r/AmItheA**hole subreddit, where people usually ask if they are wrong about something. It has now received almost 6,000 upvotes and 649 comments.

The top comment, by Maggiemonte, with over 10,000 reads: "Absolutely [NotTheA**hole]. She knew it was a rule or she wouldn't have written "first facebook photo." This is a common rule so you are not on your own, she just has no respect. Stand your ground here.

And sjjbee added: "yep. was going to say the same thing. she absolutely knew!"

Jimandbexley said: "Think your [sister-in-law] needs to be made aware of the very serious consequences of posting a photo of a minor without consent, and ignoring requests to take it down. Laws were made to deal with this off the back of revenge porn cases. [notthea**hole] my love, you are doing the right thing."

Another user, KatKaleen, said: "Oh no, [NotTheA**hole]. Your [SisterInLaw] is WAY out of line! I don't know about your other rules, but "no pics of my baby on social media" is absolutely reasonable. Heck, when my sister gave birth to my nephew, I asked her whether I could show my friends the pic she sent me! There wasn't even a rule, I just knew to ask! And how rude of her to call you a bad mother over this! The audacity!"

Impressive-Spell-643 added: "Exactly! And how exactly is she a bad mother for not wanting a picture of her baby going around online? SIL is just being immature."

KatKaleen said: "I'd call her 'insufferably entitled,' but 'immature' is definitely in there."

Ill_Difference9282 wrote: "I hope you know that you can actually file a complaint against her for doing so against your consent. I would highly recommend doing it so that she learns her lesson."

And Jazzlike_Crew_3956 added: "[NotTheA**hole] My friend has that rule with her kids. I have pictures with them in it... I either crop it if I want to post or cover them with an emoji sticker so you can't see their face. This tends to be the rule within our friend group for anyone who doesn't want to be online. She crossed a huge boundary, especially when she posted 'niece's first FB picture.'"