Wife Backed for Being Nude in Room to Stop Husband's Friend From Barging In

The internet has backed a woman for being nude in her bedroom to prevent her husband's best friend from barging in.

Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/BetterDay5097 shared her story to receive feedback from the "AITA" community. The viral post has over 18,000 upvotes and 3,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) shared her story by explaining that her husband's best friend, "Jacob," recently moved in with them. She described him as "quiet" and neat, unlike her brother-in-law who used to live with them. However, Jacob tends to barge into her and her husband's bedroom to grab something from her husband's closet—normally an article of clothing or accessory. She vented that she feels her privacy is being violated, but when she spoke up about the problem, both Jacob and her husband ignored her.

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Above, a man and a woman are seen arguing. Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman has been backed for sleeping nude in her bedroom to prevent her husband's best friend from barging in. gorodenkoff/iStock / Getty Images Plus

One day, the OP was extremely tired from work and wanted to get some sleep. She was awakened around 11 p.m. by Jacob barging in. To prevent him from no longer barging into the room, she decided to sleep nude on top of her covers. When Jacob walked into the room and noticed her, he quickly turned around and walked out.

"I started hearing a commotion outside so I got dressed to see what was going on," she continued, "I was met with a lot of yelling and scolding and shaming from my husband saying I was out of line to expose 'his brother' to 'such horrendous sight'. I asked what he meant and he yelled at me to stop acting dumb. I said I felt frusrtrated after my privacy got violated and he went on about how Jacob was only there to grab something which, literally takes seconds.

"then went on about how I made him uncomfortable while describing my behavior as '[slutty]'. The argument got heated and he told me to start putting some decent clothes on and act like a lady instead of a [slut] since, it's his room too and he already gave permission. I got mad and told him loudly that I will keep sleeping on bed naked as long as his friend keeps walking inti the room then I walked off. He didn't stop complaining and complaining saying I'm being ridiculous and even suggested that this was an attempt from me to make Jacob move out," she wrote.

The OP wrote that she and her husband were still arguing over what happened.

Newsweek reached out to u/BetterDay5097 for comment.

Newsweek has published several articles regarding conflicts in relationships including a story of a woman who urged to leave her relationship because she pays for every meal, a woman who "ruined" her husband's dinner when an old flame appeared and a woman backed online after she left her fiancé's family vacation after a bathing suit prank.

What is body shaming and how to handle it if it happens to you?

When someone body shames a person, it means they are saying something negative about that person's body. Per verywellmind.com, the types of body shaming include offending someone for their weight, body hair, attractiveness, age, food intake or clothing.

Being body-shamed can affect a person negatively as it can create anxiety, depression, body dysmorphic disorder, eating disorders and other problems, according to helpguide.org.

The mental health and wellness website also suggested the best ways to build body positivity, including:

  • Treat yourself with kindness.
  • Doing mindfulness activities including meditation, exercise and deep breathing.
  • Try your best to focus on positive things about yourself rather than negative things.
  • Think about all of the things you like about yourself.
  • Take a break from social media.
  • Talk to a trusted person about what you're going through and how you feel.

Redditor reactions

"[Not the a**hole]. But it sounds like you have a husband problem. He should care that his friend keeps going into the bedroom. And how is you being naked a 'horrendous sight'? That is terrible of him to even say that and take his friend's side," u/cozynite wrote, receiving the top comment of over 34,000 upvotes.

"[Not the a**hole]. There are so many red flags here. Why do men keep moving into your home. How can they not respect your privacy. What guy shares clothes and watches with their friend in that way. What grown man screeches at a naked woman and runs to her husband and complains. What husband allows a man into he and his wife's bedroom and chastises his wife when she complains," u/Skizzybee commented.

"Your husband slut-shamed and body-shamed you, all because you exercised your right to do what you like in your own private space and you ask if you're AITA? [Not the a**hole] to the moon and back. I'm inclined to think that he does this a lot to the point that you don't recognise how disrespectful and controlling he sounds," u/jkymochi said.

"[Not the a**hole]. You are fine because you are in the right here. However. If my husband referred to my naked body as a horrendous sight, it would be the absolute end of my marriage," u/impurehalo exclaimed.