Wife Backed for Wanting Unemployed Husband to Live With His Parents

In a now-viral post, a woman said she wants her unemployed husband to live with his parents until he finds a job.

Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) forum under a throwaway account, the woman said her husband quit his job two months ago but still hasn't begun looking for a replacement, leaving her to pay all their expenses on her own. The post has garnered over 16,000 upvotes and nearly 3,000 comments slamming the woman's "lazy mooch" of a husband.

Why Couples Fight

A study led by Lauren Papp, the associate dean of research at the University of Madison-Wisconsin's School of Human Ecology, revealed that money, chores and work are the most common sources of tension among married couples.

According to Fatherly, roughly 18 percent of husbands surveyed said their arguments were tied to spending, salaries and bills, compared to over 19 percent of wives. Though these percentages may not seem very high, Fatherly said fights about finances are "emotionally loaded ones that last longer and are resolved less frequently."

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Here, a stock photo of a couple fighting. In a now-viral post, a woman said she wants her unemployed husband to temporarily live with his parents. PokPak05/istock

"Differences about money are universal," Papp told Fatherly. "All couples need to make decisions about spending and saving and there's plenty of potential for two people to bring different earlier experiences, different expectations, and different behaviors related to money."

Further, 19.3 percent of husbands and 18.9 percent of wives reported arguing with their spouses about each other's jobs, and a whopping 25.1 percent of husbands and 24.1 percent of wives reported arguing about chores.

Based on the information she shared, the Redditor and her husband don't appear to see eye to eye on any of these topics.


In her post, the woman said her husband "cut down on his work hours" shortly after they got married.

"He gave the explanation that I made plenty of money for the both of us so he could just work part-time and do the work around the house while I was the main breadwinner...I didn't say anything as this felt fair," she wrote.

However, her husband quickly stopped helping out around the house, and back in June, he quit his job altogether.

"While I do earn a decent amount of money, it's not to the point where I can pay for rent, bills, groceries, insurance, [etc.]...I began paying for his nights out, subbing him money for trips to look for work, etc. all while I was under the assumption he would be searching for a new job," she said.

But when she finally confronted her husband about the job search, he let slip that he wasn't looking for one.

"I was furious that he had lied to me and told him I didn't want him in my home right now...My in-laws are understanding to an extent but are calling me an a**hole for not wanting him to come back home until he gets a job," she concluded, adding that her husband also thinks she's being an a**hole.

Commenters React

Commenters called the Redditor's husband a "mooch," and told her to dump him.

"Don't let him back into the house unless you just want a mooch, lazy, roommate that won't pay rent," u/soundslikemahnamahna said.

"Your husband is totally taking advantage of you...Divorce him. He's literally dead weight and you're better off without him," u/car55tar5 wrote.

"Marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership but your husband is clearly taking advantage of you and the situation," u/Ownerofthelonelyhrts commented. "You signed up for marriage, not to raise another kid."

Redditor u/MissyBee63 added: "Sorry honey, he'll never hold down a full-time job or carry his own weight. Just file for divorce and save yourself decades of frustration."

Newsweek reached out to the Redditor for comment.

Other Viral Moments

Commenters applauded a woman on Wednesday who kicked her husband out of the delivery room for playing on his phone.

On Monday, commenters backed a partner who snapped at their boyfriend for wanting alone time on their day off.

And Friday, Redditors bashed a stay-at-home mom for refusing to get a job to help pay her family's bills.

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