Woman Backed for Kicking Husband Out of Delivery Room for Playing on Phone

A woman was praised online after kicking her husband out of the delivery room for playing on his phone.

Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/Moody009 shared her story to get the opinions of the "AITA" community. The viral post has over 9,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

The OP (original poster) began her post by explaining that she was recently in labor for 26 hours with no epidural. In the delivery room, her husband was either on the phone playing games or talking to his friends using a very loud voice.

He was eager to talk to his friends as they were telling him about the "boys' trip" they were on. He was unable to attend the trip because the OP asked him to stay back to help when she went into labor.

When she asked him to hang up the phone, he would apologize to his friends and tell them that his wife was "being a nag." She told him that if he wanted to talk to them, he needed to leave the room so she could "be in pain in peace."

Woman praised for kicking husband out hospital
Above, a woman is shown in the delivery room. A mother has been praised online for kicking her husband out of the delivery room because he was playing on his phone. SerrNovik/iStock / Getty Images Plus

He agreed and put his phone away. Twenty minutes later, his mother FaceTimed him. He proceeded to put the OP in the video. The mother-in-law made comments about how she "did herself up" to give birth and she looked so good that the doctor flirted with her.

"I was holding back everything inside me to not say something as I didnt want to disrespect my mother in law but at the same time she sometimes just makes the stupidest comments at the worst times and at this moment I could not stand talking to her. A nurse ends up coming in and could tell I was upset and asks me if everything was alright and I tell her I just really want to be alone," she said.

One of the nurses kicked the OP's husband out of the room. He was so angry that he ended up leaving the hospital, thus missing the birth of his daughter.

"He refused to come see his daughter afterwards because he was angry at me for kicking him out, my mother in law who did visit me in the hospital wouldn't stop taking about how I'm such a bad wife for removing my husband from the room. When I got home he kept on bringing up how I ruined a moment of bonding with his daughter and how he could never forgive me for that," she concluded.

In a comment made to Newsweek, u/Moody009 said that her post made her realize how horrible her husband was to her, "I have decided it'd be best for my daughter and I to stay at my mom's until I can figure out if I still want to be with him."

How can I help my partner in the delivery room?

Childbirth can be a long, stressful and painful process. To help your partner, prepare yourself for what to expect while in the delivery room, anticipate waiting some time for the labor process to begin/end, always show your support and monitor contractions, via parents.com.

Here are some more tips on how to help your partner in labor, per verywellfamily.com:

  • Massage your partner's temples to help them relax. This method also helps release stress.
  • Remind your partner to try and use the restroom every hour as it can get uncomfortable, and can also stall labor.
  • Try cool compresses on their neck and face.
  • Heating pads and a warm blanket can also help ease the pain.
  • Encourage them to drink plenty of fluids and eat (if doctors allow) to keep their energy up.

Redditor reactions

"[Not the a**hole]. That's a whole lot of red flags from your husband 1) had to be told not to leave on a boys holiday when his wife would likely be giving birth to his child 2) ignored his labouring wife to chat with his friends on said trip 3) called them back after being told to hang up 4) answered a video chat from someone you didn't want in the room 5) allowed that person to be disrespectful towards you 6) went off in a sulk instead of visiting you and his child as soon as he was allowed back in," u/Obsidian-Winter wrote, receiving the top comment of over 15,000 upvotes.

"[Not the a**hole] - The nurse kicked him out of the room. He's the one that chose to leave the hospital all together," u/Forward-Squirrel8879 said.

"[Not the a**hole] and it truly upsets me to read these stories on reddit. I always wonder if you are really going to spend the rest of your life with such an a**hole," u/sophi52760 exclaimed.

U/0kayte commented, "He was pissy because he couldn't go on a bro trip because his baby had the audacity to come into this world at the same time. So he what? Passively-aggressively spends the entire time on the phone with his bros bull*****ing about missing it and calling you a nag? I would have kicked his a** out of the delivery room, too. Then he refuses to come see the baby at all because he's off pouting and blames you when you get home? At that point I would have kicked him out of the house. [Not the a**hole]."

Newsweek has published several articles about pregnancy, including where a pregnant woman was "bombarded" by her mom and praised for banning her from visiting the baby, a woman who was backed by the internet for not allowing her husband or mother-in-law into the delivery room and the internet urging a woman to lie and keep her pregnancy a secret at her cousin's wedding.

Update 8/18/2022, 4:04 p.m.: This article has been updated to include comment from the original poster.