Woman Blasted After Not Inviting 'Drug Addict' Brother-In-Law to Wedding

The internet has slammed a woman for refusing to invite her "drug addict" brother-in-law to her wedding.

In a popular post published to Reddit's "AmITheA**hole" forum, a woman under the name u/hot-ad-0730 wanted the opinions of the community. The post has 7,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments.

The Reddit user explained that her fiancé's twin brother used to be a drug addict. She doesn't want to have a person with a problematic past at her wedding. However, her fiancé wants his brother to be one of his groomsmen. He explained to her that he has since gone to rehab and is clean, but the Redditor still isn't convinced.

To prove that his brother is indeed clean and sober, her fiancé invited his brother and mother over for dinner. The original poster (also known as the OP) argued that she did not know about the dinner.

"I was furious that he would invite that drug addict and their nutcase of a mom to my house without consulting me first. I told them that I'm not gonna make dinner for a dopehead and to please leave my house," she exclaimed.

The best way to help a loved one that suffers from drug addiction is to first, do research on the addiction that the person is dealing with. You can also find a professional to help as well. Another great thing to do is encourage them to get help. Stage an intervention if necessary and in the final step, persevere but set boundaries, per the Addiction Education Society.

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The internet has slammed a woman for not inviting "drug addict" brother-in-law to her wedding. Ridofranz/iStock / Getty Images Plus

She continued: "His brother then started sobbing, saying that I'm unfair for not letting him support his brother on his big day just because of some stupid mistakes and my future MIL started berating me about how heartless I am for doing this to their sons and being so hung up on something that's in the past. I told them to drop the act, these 'stupid mistakes' literally landed him in jail and I'm not gonna allow a former offender at my wedding under any circumstances."

She continued to argue with her future family and didn't want a "former offender" present during her wedding. She wrote that her mother-in-law was the reason that her brother-in-law was a drug addict and continue to "enable" his addiction.

The couple got into another argument after OP got her in-laws out of her home. Her fiancé was upset about how she treated his family members and reiterated that she didn't want a drug addict at their wedding.

"I told him that's not my fault that his family is formed of a bunch of nutcases, which turned into another argument between us, with me saying that if I see his twin brother between the guests at the wedding, then I'm simply not gonna walk down the aisle," she said.

Even though her fiancé is still upset with her, her decision did not change.

The Redditor is even considering hiring a security guard to make sure her brother-in-law (and maybe mother-in-law) does not come to the wedding.

Reddit users were quick to slam OP in the comment section that has now been disabled.

U/GlitterSparkleDevine wrote in the top comment with 38,000 upvotes, "Don't worry, the twin brother won't be at your wedding because there's not going be one. Why would anyone marry someone who is so incredibly judgmental and cruel to their family? YTA."

"You need to run away from this crazy person now! Don't marry them! Your life will be ruined! Pass that message on to your Fiancé for me will you, doll? YTA," u/A-dog-named-Trouble exclaimed.

"YTA, I am a drug addict/alcoholic and have been clean longer than you have been alive. People do change," u/fattdog64 said, "On a separate train of thought, for every 10 people YOU have invited, at the very least one of them has a substance abuse problem. You just don't know about it yet."

"Wow - YTA. Bridezilla much? You can't predict someone's future based off of their past. Drug addiction is a disease. You have to try and give him a chance to succeed in sobriety. I doubt seriously you will be married for long with that attitude," u/mizfit0416 wrote.

Newsweek has reached out to u/hot-ad-0730 for comment.

If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, help is available. Call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration's hotline at 1-800-662-4357.