'Work a Bit Harder in the Bedroom': Mother-in-Law Panned for Demanding Baby

The internet has applauded a woman for telling her mother-in-law to go f**k herself after many sly comments directed toward her, she finally snapped once she demanded a baby.

Published to Reddit's "AmITheA**hole" forum, a woman under the username u/J_M461 posed the question for the community to answer, "AITA for telling my MIL to go f**k herself?" The viral post has 10,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

The 27-year-old Reddit user explains that her husband is very close to his mother and has noticed that his mother favorites her son over his sisters, "She showered him with love and attention, his sisters didn't really get that."

Snarky comments began when the original poster (OP) first met her mother-in-law. "Yes, I know all about you," she said to the OP, looking her up and down. Over the years, the rude comments kept going and when she told her husband, he didn't do much to stop it and blamed it on insecurity.

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The internet applauded Redditor for telling her mother-in-law to "go f**k herself" after many snarky remarks in a new viral post in the "AmITheA**hole" forum. monkeybusinessimages/iStock / Getty Images Plus

When the couple got married, she said that her mother-in-law decided to wear white to the wedding, something The Knot says is a no-no. Since then, she has been sending the Redditor articles about children and "ways to keep husbands satisfied in a relationship." OP reassured her in-law that she would be the first to know on any pregnancy news.

During the holidays, OP's mother-in-law started discussing babies in front of the family, asking her very intimate questions asking how long they've been trying for a baby and telling her about helpful websites.

She wrote, "I calmly shut it down, my husband said nothing. When we got home I asked my husband why he didn't say anything. He told me maybe it would be good for me to take the advice and instead of blaming his mother, take a harsh look at myself in the mirror. I was hurt but he apologised and everything went back to normal."

When the couple dropped off some things for Easter, what her in-law said to her was enough for her to snap.

"My mother in law said 'you look like you've gained a bit, are you pregnant yet' I was floored, again my husband was silent. I told her no and she frowned, 'from what[?] [Y]ou need to work a little bit harder in the bedroom, then it might work.' I looked at her and straight out told her to go f**k herself and mind her business. She told me that I was being too sensitive and I needed to show her a little more respect, she was just looking out for her baby."

The Redditor went outside and waited for her husband by the car. Once he returned, they got into an argument and she restated that it's none of her business how their sex life is. He didn't side with her as he told her to "suck it up" and that she had to show some respect. The Redditor didn't go home with him as she called herself an Uber and has been staying at her sister's house. She has received calls from her husband's family calling her a b***h and demanding an apology.

In edits made to the post, she admits to the Reddit community that they don't use condoms since her husband is allergic to latex brands. She said she was on birth control, but it kept going missing so she wasn't able to take them daily. Nervous about it, she continues to stay with her sister and is looking into getting a lawyer along with getting a pregnancy test.

Newsweek reached out to u/J_M461, but most commenters on the post agreed that she's "not the a**hole."

"NTA. If you happen to interact with her again before your divorce, ask her how you were supposed to conceive when she clearly keeps your husband's balls in her purse," u/heyaelle wrote with the top comment receiving 22,000 upvotes.

"You may be my new hero. Telling my MIL to go f**k herself is a dream of mine," u/cows-go-moo- said, "It's super weird to have any opinions on someone else's sex life, especially your own child. That's just gross. I'd tell your husband that if he's okay with his mother having opinions in his sex life then he can go have sex with her instead of you."

"There are three people in your marriage and you should have a serious conversation with your husband about it. Your MIL and your husband don't respect your boundaries and it will only get worse when you get pregnant," u/awyllt explained.

She's certainly not the only woman to go viral for asking "Am I The A**hole."

The internet rallied around another woman who said she wouldn't sleep with her brother-in-law.

One "sexist" brother-in-law got reprimanded over comments in a breastfeeding argument.

And it's not a woman's brother-in-law in this story that's the issue, but her boyfriend's parents being shamed online for asking her to pay for a door she broke during a "scary" home-invasion prank that the boyfriend's father pulled.

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