Woman Defended for 'Traumatizing' Husband Who Made Her Miss College Exam

The internet has supported a woman for "traumatizing" her husband after he sabotaged her alarm clock resulting in her missing a college exam.

Published to Reddit's notorious r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the username u/CharlieOutlaw23 submitted her post for the "AITA" community to reply if she was in the wrong for lashing out at her husband. The viral post has over 22,000 upvotes and 3,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining that she married her husband over a year ago and has finally reached the end of her college experience. She has been busy studying for final projects and exams. However, her husband complains to her a lot that they don't hang out as much due to her studies. She reminds him that it won't "last forever" as it's been hard on her.

The day before an exam, her husband asked her to come out with him to his friend's birthday party. She turned him down as she needed to study and prepare for her exam. He begged her to go out with him, explaining that it was only for an hour. When she refused again, he called her "selfish and inconsiderate."

Woman lashing out at husband over alarm
The internet has defended a woman who "traumatized" her husband after he was the reason she was late for her college exam. Deagreez/iStock / Getty Images Plus

"Before I went to bed, I set my alarm clock like I always do since I'm a heavy sleeper+I stayed up late studying. The next morning I woke up at 9am. I literally freaked out and checked my alarm and found that it was set to go off at 9:30 am. I had no idea how this happened til my husband told me he did this to repay me for refusing to take one, one hour to attend the party so he took this hour from my time," she wrote.

"I couldn't believe it I absolutely blew up at him just yelling and screaming at him left and right. He just stood there shocked from my reaction and my rage. I got dressed quickly and rushed to the university," she continued.

They refused to let her in the exam room. Though she went through a lot to convince the proctors since she didn't think she had a good reason to miss the exam, they allowed her to reschedule.

When she got back, her husband refused to talk to her. When they finally did speak, he explained to her that she hurt his feelings and "traumatized" him due to her yelling. He also said she deserved to miss her exam due to not going to any events with her husband.

Newsweek reached out to u/CharlieOutlaw23 for comment.

Are you in a situation where you feel as if you could be in an abusive relationship? There are many signs to look out for where the abuser has jealousy issues, possessiveness, controlling behavior, public shaming, blaming, financial control and unpredictable behavior, via choosingtherapy.com. If you need help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or text START to 88788.

What are some good ways to study for an exam? According to studylink.com, the best ways to study include attending every class, reviewing your notes frequently, organizing your notes, planning ahead, explaining things to your peers, creating a study group with classmates and staying positive.

The Reddit community was quick to comment, defending the OP for her actions.

"[Not the a**hole]. Holy s**t, your husband wanted to actively ruin your future because of a f**king party you couldn't attend? What kind of husband would do s**t like that. That's so f**king petty. I think he deserved a lot more than just being yelled at. I would have kicked him out immediately," u/JBR3196 exclaimed, receiving the top comment with over 38,000 upvotes.

"[Not the a**hole] honey, I'll be straight with you: your husband is abusive. He wants to control what you do and does not support your success. Please tell your place of study that you missed the exam because you are in an abusive relationship. Leave him as soon as it's safe and DO NOT have a baby with this man," u/dianaprince2022 warned the OP, and many others agreed.

U/TheTARDISRanAway said, "[Not the a**hole] - He did this totally out of spite KNOWING it would cause you to be late to your exam. You are right, university doesn't last forever and you will be able to go out and do more fun things when it's over."

"He punished you because you didn't obey him. He tried to sabotage your degree (or at least passing a class) worth thousands of dollars... because you didn't obey him. [Not the a**hole], but I would be seriously reconsidering my relationship with a man who feels entitled to do this," u/cadmium2093 explained.