Woman Praised for Talking Friend Out of Taking Paternity Test

Commenters on a viral Reddit thread criticized a man for wanting to get a paternity test done after his wife delivered their first child.

The original poster (OP), u/Haunting-Curve-3072, posted about the situation in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received more than 10,000 upvotes and 1,700 comments, many noting that while getting a paternity test is sometimes necessary, it could put a strain on the relationship.

It is estimated that as many as 300,000 paternity tests are performed around the U.S. each year to determine a child's biological father, The National Library of Medicine reported.

According to Health Street, an estimated three percent of fathers in America do not realize their child is not biologically theirs.

Man talked out of taking paternity test
A man was criticized after telling his friend he wants a paternity test after the birth of his child. SunnyVMD/iStock

In the post titled "AITA for trying to talk my friend out of taking a paternity test?" OP said that her close friends Nick and Jess just had a baby.

Recently, one of Nick's friends "brainwashed" Nick into wanting to take a paternity test. Nick asked for OP's advice on how to bring it up to Jess, but OP said she was shocked.

OP explained that she believed Nick and Jess' relationship was "good" and that they trusted each other, and added that the baby looks just like Nick.

After asking Nick why he was suspicious Jess cheated, he told OP that she didn't do anything but that he needs the test to "be certain."

"So I told Nick that it's a bad idea and could really hurt Jess," the post read. "She had an extremely traumatic birth, the baby was huge, she didn't get an epidural and everything ripped. I think she might even have postpartum depression. What she needs is support and love, not accusations of cheating."

Nick told OP that Jess would be "understanding," but said he would be "really disappointed" and would rethink their relationship and possibly break up if the tables were turned.

"Nick is now mad at me for not supporting and helping him," the post read. "He says that I'm a woman and I could never understand how it is to the father and I'm not even trying to understand it... which is partially true."

But OP went back to Nick, telling him he is not trying to understand what it is like to be a mother and "baselessly accused of cheating" after a traumatic birth.

More than 1,700 users commented on the post, with a majority of commenters criticizing Nick for wanting the paternity test.

"There are times when it is valid to get a test," one user commented. "But in a loving relationship with a partner who has given him no reason to think she was unfaithful? This may cost him his marriage. And if he goes ahead with it then that's his choice. You've done all you can."

"What kind of 'friend' would do this? He needs to turn his thoughts to why his friend planted those seeds. Usually jealousy/envy is the answer," another user commented.

"Since you are also close friends with Jess, maybe drop talking to Nick and put your energy into supporting Jess," another user suggested. "Nick is going to blow up his relationship and it doesn't look like there is much you can do. When he makes this delusional stupid move, Jess will need all the support she can get."

A paternity test, which usually consists of a blood test or cheek swab to collect DNA, is 99.9 percent accurate, according to the Cleveland Clinic. However, there are chances for human error or incorrect results.

After the DNA has been collected, the sample is sent off to a lab where DNA sequencing is performed to look for potential matches between the father and child.

While at-home tests can cost between $60 to $200, a test in a medical setting can run up to about $500.

Medical professionals are also to perform non-invasive prenatal paternity tests which can determine the biological father before the baby is even born. These tests usually cost up to $2,000.

Newsweek reached out to u/Haunting-Curve-3072 for comment.

In another viral post from Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" forum, a man was supported for insisting he tells his son that he's not actually his biological father.

One teen was supported online after refusing to submit to a paternity test, and another man was slammed for insisting his gay coworker take a paternity test.