Woman Raging Stepmom's Gifting Son More Inheritance Slammed: 'Birth Right'

A woman is raging her stepmother and father are giving her half-brother more inheritance, enough for him to buy his own house.

The 43-year-old vented her fury to Mumsnet, under username Undertherainbow00, explaining her parents got divorced in the 1980s when she was around five years old, and she had one sister.

Her dad later remarried a woman eight years his junior, and when she (the poster) was 14, the couple had a son.

After troubled years as a youth, she turned her life around after falling pregnant at 16, going back to education and setting up a home.

File photo of hands counting cash.
File photo of hands counting cash. A woman is bitter her half-brother is inheriting more from his stepmom and dad. Denis Kalinichenko/Getty Images

But the mom, based in the U.K., still hasn't been able to save enough for her own house, which is why she's bristling after her stepmom informed her of the inheritance split.

She wrote: "Stepmother engineered hers and my father's will like this—their house split 50/50 her share to my half brother and my father's 50% share split three ways between all three siblings. Fair?"

She explained her stepmom inherited some money herself, continuing: "Anyway, her parents died several years back and left her a significant inheritance. She bought her two siblings out of the parents house as she didn't want to sell it at that point.

"Today she has told me that she is selling it as my half brother is very anxious about approaching thirty without owning his own property. She is gifting him the entire proceeds of the house sale—a minimum of £500,000 ($627,527).

"I just sat there listening to her monologue of how much of his income is wasted in rent—I really can't relate can I? She waffled on that it was his birth right as they were his grandparents.

"I feel SO angry as their property was bought from the sale of my parents house—so by that logic, my sister and I should have a greater share of their house."

In a follow-up comment, she claims her stepmom was benefiting from the proceeds of the sale of her parents' marital home, which she claims was initially funded using cash from her grandparents. She stated her mom lost her claim to marital assets when she fled the property, amid claims of abuse and alcoholism.

"My mother's family (my maternal grandparents) had given my parents the deposit for the house as a wedding gift.

"My mother in her own right had a fantastic career in banking in the 70/80's and ploughed everything into that house financially—following her divorce, she had almost nothing and ended up living in a council house raising two children.

"On the other hand my father and stepmother bought a property with the proceeds from the sale. They used that money to feather their nest—my mother's money and my maternal grandparents money," she later stated.

She waffled on that it was his birth right as they were his grandparents."

In the original post, she admitted to feeling "bitter," as her half-brother was now "benefiting from my maternal grandparents gift all those years ago because that money was used to buy their house."

She concluded the original post: "I have stood back and watched him have everything in life that I didn't but this has really rocked me and I feel terrible for feeling like this. I am jealous that he will have a home of his own as I fear I never will."

Shared on Saturday, her dilemma has amassed more than 350 responses, and can be read here—but she found little support among commenters.

Indoorplantqueen wrote: "I also agree the split is fair. Harking back to things that happened 40 years ago with your parents marriage/divorce is not really conducive."

Whumpthereitis said: "As wrong as it may have been, it was 40 years ago and the situation had nothing to do with the stepmother. She's now been married to the father for decades, so any assets that he bought into the marriage are now half hers. If OP thinks she should get more because of what happened in a 40 year old divorce, she needs to take it up with her father."

dianthus101 said: "Given you were less than five when your parents split how do you know that your mother was "screwed out of her fair share" and how is it your SM fault? It is a bit ridiculous to state that the money your brother is receiving now is related to a divorce that happened nearly 40 years ago."

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Bananarama21 replied: "You seem to know a lot about what went on financially in your parents divorce when you were a child. You cannot know what actually happened in regards to the proceeds of the sale."

Villagewaspbyke reckoned: "The father is splitting his estate equally among his children and the step mother is leaving her estate to her child. Which is all fair enough imo."

While XelaM said: "Sorry OP, but she's not your mother. If she were you would be right to be mad, but she's not related to you and doesn't have to provide for you."

Although Cameleongirl added: "Is your Dad still alive, OP? I think you should talk to him about this and explain how you feel about the house that belonged to him and your Mum. It's the unfair split of marital assets during their divorce that's behind this. His will is also his responsibility, not your SM's. He's agreed to it."

Legally, stepchildren do not have the same rights to inherit as biological children.

Website Relational Estate & Elder Law clarified: "If you want your stepchildren to inherit from you, you must specifically name them as beneficiaries."

In certain cases, stepchildren can bring about a claim under the Provision for Family and Dependants) Act 1975, if they can prove they are dependents.

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