Bride Blasted for Demanding Gay Sister Takes Groomsman As Date to Wedding

A bride-to-be has been branded "homophobic" online after refusing to let her sister bring her girlfriend of three years to her wedding.

The Williams Institute estimates that around 3.5 percent of adults in the U.S. identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual which equates to around 9 million people in total. Despite this, a study from the Center for American Progress found that one in four LGBT individuals experienced some form of discrimination.

One such example was recently shared to Reddit's "Am I The A*****?" subreddit and served to demonstrate the insidious way discrimination of this kind continues to exist.

In the post, which has been upvoted 11,000 times, a woman explained that she is due to serve as bridesmaid at her sister's wedding in just over a month.

The woman, who is openly gay, explained that her sister told her the role would come with a few requirements. "I would have to walk down the aisle beside one of the groomsmen, stand beside him in some pictures and sit at a table with him and the other bridesmaids and groomsmen," she wrote.

While she said she had "no problem," she was dismayed to discover her girlfriend had not been invited to the wedding and she had also been denied a plus one.

"When I brought this to my sister's attention she said the groomsmen (I'll call him John) is my date," she explained. "She told me John is single so it made sense to 'pair us up' and have us be each other's dates."

According to the woman's post, her girlfriend's omission is "not about cost savings" as her parents are "dropping at least $75k on the wedding."

More importantly, the maid of honor, best man and all of the other bridesmaids and groomsmen have been given plus ones along with every other guest. The situation has left the woman baffled as her girlfriend has been "welcomed to family events and holidays with no negativity" in the past.

"I've been out for 15 years. I took a girl to my prom. My parents and sister have taken me to pride parades in the past," she wrote. "Everyone knows I'm gay and it's never been a problem but now I feel like it is."

When she then raised her objections her parents intervened, telling her she was being "self centered" and that her sister "can do as she pleases" as it is "her day."

The situation has left the woman "shocked" and considering removing herself from the wedding entirely. "I feel like it's homophobia no matter what my sister and parents say," she said.

Many of those commenting on the post were in agreement. "Even if, 'best' case, she's completely accepting of your girlfriend and she doesn't want her there because of the groom's family, she's still being homophobic by catering to them," SparkAxolotl said. "She can be as homophobic as she wants while pretending she's not, but that doesn't mean you have to tolerate it."

Jolly-Accountant-722 offered up an alternative theory. "I'm smelling homophobic in-laws," they wrote. "The whole family sucks for putting up with this and pretending like that's not what's happening, but that's where my money is."

Lefrench75 urged the woman's parents to step up and do the right thing. "If I'm dropping at least $75k on my child's wedding, the very least that child can do is not subject my other child to homophobia," they said. "If the sister cares so much about potential homophobes on the in-laws' side, she should get them to pay for the wedding then."

Chickenfightyourmom called on the sister to take more extreme action, writing: "When people show you who they are, believe them. I'd cut up the bridesmaid dress and mail it to sister along with an RSVP card checked 'We regretfully cannot attend.'"

Another user, posting as sup1234566, was similarly unforgiving. "She's asking you to be straight for a day," they wrote. "It is incredibly rude to your girlfriend and invalidates your relationship. Also the fact that you're gay, are open and proud about it, and shouldn't have to hide it just for your sister. It's homophobic."

Newsweek has contacted the original poster for comment.

The incident isn't the first time two sisters have clashed over wedding plans on social media.

One woman revealed her sibling was trying to steal her thunder by scheduling her last-minute nuptials for the week after her wedding. Elsewhere, a sister found herself banned from any involvement in her sibling's big day despite the fact she was paying for it all.

A wedding bride and her sister.
Stock image of a wedding bride and her sister. A woman has been slammed for refusing to let her gay sister bring her girlfriend to her wedding. bmcent1/Getty