Dad Cheered for Divorcing Wife Over Stepkids 'Bullying' His Daughter

A man has been praised online after admitting he divorced his wife over his stepdaughters "bullying" his daughter.

The dad shared his situation to Reddit's Am I The A**hole forum on Thursday, under username u/CanAdmirable6285, where his post since amassed more than 6,000 upvotes and comments.

The top comment racked up more than 7,500 upvotes alone, as the dad revealed he was a widower and had a 12-year-old daughter.

He explained he met his new wife, a divorced mom of two, four years ago when his stepdaughters were 11 and 13.

File photo of girl crying.
File photo of girl crying. A dad has been praised for divorcing his wife over how his stepdaughters treated his daughter. gemenacom/Getty Images

While it's not clear where the family is based, second marriages are common across the world.

In Canada, statistics from StanCan in 2019 acknowledged family life has changed over the years, citing out of 11 million people aged 35 to 64 "who were in a couple relationship in 2017, 26% were in their second or subsequent marriage or common-law relationship, up from 23% in 2006.

"In 2017, men and women in a couple relationship were about equally likely to be in their second or subsequent marriage or common-law union, with 25% of women and 26% of men having been married or lived common law more than once."

They stated the average time people waited before finding a new partner was five years, with women spending nearly five years single and men four and a half.

In the U.K., statistics from 2019, published by the Office of National Statistics (ONS) revealed 2,279 widowers were recorded marrying divorced women.

Figures from the Centers of Disease Control Prevention (CDC) revealed in 2020 there were 1,676,911 marriages, compared to 630,505 divorces.

The CDC published data on second marriages, albeit from 2001, which claimed "43 percent of first marriages end in separation or divorce within 15 years," adding: "Younger women who divorce are more likely to remarry: 81 percent of those divorced before age 25 remarry within 10 years, compared with 68 percent of those divorced at age 25 or later."

This chart, provided by Statista, shows the percentage of single parents in America.

Infographic: The U.S. Has the Highest Share of Single Parenting | Statista You will find more infographics at Statista

In his post, the dad admitted his wife's ex was "an issue," but decided to continue the relationship as "it was easy not to expose my daughter to him."

He wrote: "My stepdaughters were fine with my daughter at first. Of course they didn't just call her sister magically or treat her the same right away but they were nice."

The widow claims "that all changed" within a month of getting married 2 years ago. He explained: "The girls' dad hates my daughter and they (the girls) will spew that hate in our home, and will use it to bully my daughter.

"A grown a** man called my 10 year old a fat repulsive pig, a w*ore and the reason abortion was invented (to list only a few). The girls have called her dumb, they have mocked her for being shy and introverted. I made it clear that could not continue if we were to stay married and my wife was determined she would get them to stop.

"I got my daughter therapy and I did as much as I could to keep them separate. But even at night they started to taunt her. So I made the decision to move out with my daughter and I told my wife our marriage could not continue.

"She begged me to stay. She said she loves us and her girls need me. I said my daughter comes first."

The dad revealed that ever since filing for divorce, his wife's family has claimed his stepdaughters "need to see a healthy and good father figure," and leaving will "destroy them," and he should "prioritize" them.

"I told them they are not more important than my daughter. Outrage ensued and I was asked how could say that. They said my wife was prioritizing my daughter and being loved by her should be enough for her to understand her sisters need me to stay in their lives.

"And I am an a**hole for saying their granddaughters are not special. I told them that isn't what I said. But they said I dismissed two young girls and made it sound like they weren't worth fighting for," he added.

In the comments he explained he moved out after a year or so of bullying, adding: "I can acknowledge my wife was trying while also acknowledging it wasn't enough to save my daughter from it, and that was always my priority.

"No matter how hard my wife tried, it wasn't going to take away the trauma my daughter was experiencing living with that kind of treatment every day."

His actions were overwhelmingly backed in the comments, as TTFAA2020 wrote: "100% this OP. You did the right thing. I'm sure it wasn't easy, but you knew it had to be done for your daughter. Good luck to you and your daughter. I wish you both the best and I really hope your ex wife and her girls get the help they need."

"NTA. OP kudos to you for standing up for your daughter. They were not only disrespecting your daughter, but disrespecting you. You and your daughter deserve better. It's possible that what they need is your financial support and that's sad. Stay strong!" 11arwen replied.

Revolutionary_Tap255 said: "Therapy isn't a magic fix, he did the right thing taking his daughter out of that toxic environment."

Spaceyjaycey added: "You did the right thing 100%! We see posts from kids whose parents didn't protect them and they are heartbreaking."

Newsweek contacted u/CanAdmirable6285 for comment.

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