Fury as Man Blames Woman for 'Misleading' Him by Not Wearing Wedding Ring

There's a time and a place for flirting—and plenty of places where it's a really bad idea. In front of their partner, on a customer's coffee cup or when they're dating your friend are just a few that spring to mind.

"Don't date coworkers" is conventional wisdom for a reason, because although it can go right, more often than not it goes very, very wrong. And if you're repeatedly messaging a coworker who's not interested, it's not romantic—it's sexual harassment.

One man was slammed on Reddit for tormenting his new coworker, after she told her story on the AmItheA**hole? forum.

In a post shared on Sunday, user u/throwawayCo79 asked: "AITA? For not wearing a wedding ring and making my coworker think I'm single?".

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Reddit users were disgusted by a man's treatment of his female coworkers. A woman raises her hand to say stop in this file photo. Fizkes/iStock/Getty Images Plus

The woman explained she had been sexually harassed by a male coworker who refused to believe she was married, no matter how many times she spurned his advances. That was, until her husband got involved…

The post has since received almost 23,000 upvotes and over 3,000 comments from Reddit users disturbed by her coworker's behavior.

She wrote: "I F30 started working at a company recently. I get along with most of my coworkers but been having some issues with this guy "Morgan".

"Morgan from what I understand is what everyone call[s] 'the handsome' guy in the office. He dated 2 of his coworkers and hit on several others.

"He offered to buy me lunch and internet and kept sending me funny memes and stuff. It was nice but felt a bit too much so I asked that he stop and he did."

Although the poster asked Morgan to stop flirting with her, he started sending her inappropriate pictures and accused her of lying about her marital status to deter him.

She continued: "He texted saying I was lying about being married to get him off my back, then went on about how nice and attractive he is, and how I'm trying to act like I don't like him to get him to try harder.

"I felt frustrated [especially] after he kept sendi[n]g me pics. Days ago he sent me a d*** pic and told me to 'suck it.'"

After Morgan refused to take the hint and continued to harass throwawayCo79, her husband decided to send him a message.

She said: "I decided to let my husband deal with it. He sent him a text back saying 'sorry bud, small objects are a chocking hazard for her'. Then blocked him."

In response to the snappy comeback from her husband, Morgan confronted the Redditor at work, accusing her of misleading him.

She explained: "The other day he came into the office looking furious and 'confronted' me about being misleading by not having a wedding ring on when I'm married.

"I said I didn't need to prove anything to anybody and didn't lead anyone on. He said he was trying to get close to me and I should've told him I'm married from the get go.

"I said I was sorry but he maybe he shouldn't have basically tried to enforce a relationship with anyone regradless if they're in a relationship or not.

"He said that my husband and I were rude and offensive then rushed out."

According to NPR, 38 percent of women experience sexual harassment in the workplace, while 77% reported being verbally harassed and 51% were touched without their permission. Research by The Harvard Business Review shows that more than half of women who are harassed at work don't report it to HR, mainly due to fear of retaliation.

Surprisingly, throwawayCo79's coworkers were divided on the issue.

She added: "Other coworkers said Morgan was an a****** but I too bare the blame for [not] having my wedding ring on and being somewhat misleading.

"I said I don't think I owe anyone an explanation and refused to apologize for what happened just to keep the peace in the office."

Despite her coworkers' dismissive attitude, Reddit users were appalled by Morgan's actions and encouraged her to report him to human resources.

Fire_goddess11 recommended "bringing that d*** pic to HR immediately."

UsernameTaken93456 agreed, commenting: "He is sexually harassing you at the workplace, and the excuse that 'I wouldn't have harassed you if I knew your vagina was claimed by a different man' is disgusting.'"

Cashycallow said: "Ring or no ring this dude needs to learn no means no."

ThrowawayCo79 explained that she doesn't wear a ring due to skin problems, but as many Redditors pointed out, she shouldn't have to explain herself or wear one if she doesn't want to.

"Her being married is almost irrelevant except that he's placing so much importance on her belonging to another guy," said Normal-Height-8577.

"The truth is, that married or not married, he should have backed off the moment he was told to back off. End of story."

Many users were surprised that Morgan hasn't already been reported to HR for his behavior, and berated throwawayCo79's colleagues for not supporting her.

Eveanon commented: "Go to HR about him, as well as any co worker who essentially victim blamed you."

Wildeflowers added: "He's done this to multiple women, and obviously everyone else at this workplace is too unprofessional to get why this is a problem."

Newsweek has contacted u/throwawayCo79 for comment.