'Gold Digger' Who Sent In-Laws Prenup Revealing She's a Millionaire Cheered

A woman whose in-laws treat her like a "gold digger" has been applauded online for sending them her prenuptial agreement, revealing that she is a millionaire.

The New Yorker shared her story to Reddit's popular Am I the A**hole forum, using the handle BlasianInvasions and the title "AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years?"

The website FindLaw points out that "while no one is thinking about a divorce when they get married, about one half of all marriages in America end up in divorce proceedings." As a result, prenups are becoming more common, to establish "the property and financial rights of each spouse in the event of a divorce."

It added: "Prenups are often used to protect the assets of wealthy spouses but also can protect family businesses and serve other important functions," such as confirming the rights of children from a previous relationship.

File photo of woman and money.
File photo of woman and money. A woman branded a "gold digger" by her in-laws has been praised for sending them the prenup showing off her wealth. Urilux/Getty Images

Statistics from the U.K.'s Marriage Foundation reflect the growth in prenups' popularity. Its study of 2,000 couples found that 20 percent of those who had married since 2000 had some form of prenup in place. This compares with "just 1.5 per cent who were married in the 1970s, 5 per cent in the 1980s and 8 per cent in the 1990s," the the foundation said.

The AITA post has amassed more than 6,000 upvotes since it was uploaded on Thursday and can be read here. In it, BlasianInvasions explains that she came from a working-class family, while her husband had "generational wealth."

This caused a rift between the families and ultimately drove a wedge between the couple and her in-laws, with the woman's husband rarely speaking to his relatives.

"They hated me from the start because I 'do not have their breeding'—their actual words—and they were beyond rude to me," she wrote.

The woman has endured years of slurs and insults as his family assumed she was with her husband for his money.

But she revealed: "Here's the kicker. While my family is not rich, I am. I started my own software company and sold it for over $5 million in 2010. I took most of that and invested in technology stocks.

"My net worth is 8 figures whereas my husband has a trust in the 7 figures. We just don't flash fancy cars, an absurd home, or brand name everything."

While my family is not rich, I am. My net worth is 8 figures whereas my husband has a trust in the 7 figures"
BlasianInvasions on Reddit

After "recent drama" with her in-laws, the woman attempted to silence them for good by emailing them the 40-page prenup—which was drafted at her request—revealing that she is wealthier than her husband.

In a follow-up comment, she explained: "I had enough of them calling me a golddigger and lazy."

Her in-laws' racism also played a role, she wrote. "Let's be real. I know many in his family hate me because I'm not white but they definitely also hate me because they think I'm poor.

"His uncle made another comment about how I brainwashed my husband to buy our new apartment. Meanwhile, I purchased it and it's in my name. I've heard it all before from them but something about how his uncle said it really pissed me off and I had enough.

"So I sent an email to several of his family members with our prenup showing the long list of assets under my name. This shut them up good. In fact, I've noticed some of his cousins acting a lot nicer lately."

Her action has caused some friction with her loved ones, however. "This did not sit well with my family or my husband," she wrote.

"My husband doesn't care that they know we have a prenup but he didn't want them to know how much I have. He is more worried that his family will try to leech off me now. Very ironic. I don't regret my actions but my husband keeps saying I messed up. AITA?"

In a follow-up message, she added that she had redacted key information from the legal document to prevent any privacy concerns—and stressed that she would not be pressured into giving her in-laws any money.

She also reiterated that she had only sent the prenup after "my husband and I have tried to tell his family that I'm doing fine for years. Of course that's the first step we took, but they just didn't believe that a mixed Black woman could have wealth. They would flat out say, 'Don't let her trick you.'"

The woman added: "My personal belongings don't define me. For one, I still drive a Toyota Corolla 2010—if it ain't broke, don't fix it. I care about life experiences and treating people with respect, kindness, and empathy. I believe that's what makes a classy person."

Her stance was praised by other Redditors, with Sapphisticated_heaux writing: "Don't listen to anyone telling you you messed up. This was exactly what they had coming."

Next-End-4696 commented: "NTA. I understand why you did what you did."

V_LaJefa added: "I don't blame you! Eventually they would of found out about your finances somehow & I live for moments of making people look & feel stupid. NTA!!"

Newsweek has contacted BlasianInvasions for comment.

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