'Lazy' Mom-of-4 Shares State of Her House When She Doesn't Clean for Days

A mom has shared the frank realities of home life with four children, as she filmed her house after not cleaning for four days.

Bri James regularly posts videos of mess and clutter to her TikTok page, @themessymama4, but one of her videos has caught the attention of the internet.

Shared over the weekend, it's already amassed more than 10 million views, as James wrote: "Barf it's bad."

The mom-of-four walks through her home, including the kitchen and dining area, as she says: "I know I'm going to get roasted, I just know it.

"But this is what happens when two really lazy adults have four kids and don't clean up after themselves. Because it's a mess.

"Four days guys, I have not done dishes or picked things up for four days and this is what my house looks like.

"It is not dirty, it's simply messy. And so that's what I'm going to do today."

The clip, which can be seen here, shows dishes piled up in the kitchen, empty packets and cutlery on the floor, clothes and toys strewn everywhere.

James, who describes herself as a stay-at-home-mom, added the caption: "I will block those who are mean. This is to keep me accountable not for views."

Despite that, some people voiced negative opinions over her home life, with TikToker Steph saying: "4 days worth of dishes is in fact dirty."

EM thought: "If CPS [child protective services] came to your house looking like that they would 100% open a case. They take kids away for far less."


I will block those who are mean. this is to keep me accountable not for views.

♬ original sound - Bri James

Crusty commented: "I'm sorry but you're just making excuses. My family had 10 kids and our house is so clean."

TexasTay added: "No this is dirty. My aunt had 4 kids & although her house was never spotless, it never looked like this. Not doing dishes for 4 days isn't okay."

Ambsies wrote: "'It's not dirty...' with trash literally laying around the entire house and floor. I swear these people just ask for it."

"Ok I can understand a mess sometimes. But no way it's not dirty?? You can't clean properly in all that. And yes I have kids and work all the time," Ashley Adams commented.

But some jumped to James' defense, as Maggie wrote: "The lack of compassion in the comments is real! I hope you find a system that works for you and your family!"

Kayla said: "Only people who grew up like this understands what she means. I understand completely lol."


my butt does not look flattering in these Walmart lounge pants 🤦🏼‍♀️😅

♬ original sound - Bri James

Lylavbaker022 wrote: "Everyone here is being dramatic. This is not that bad. I'm glad you are using a way to try and motivate yourself. I need the motivation too."

Abbeygottardi weighed in, saying: "I have 5 kids and my house will get this bad in an hour lol. No one should judge this."

Cleaning is a daily ritual for some, with research published by Statista in 2019, from Karcher, revealing most age groups spent up to an hour cleaning each week.

In the 25 to 34-year-old bracket, 16 per cent spent between one and two hours cleaning each week, 15 per cent cleaned for between two to three hours, while only four per cent scrubbed for between three to four hours.

James shared two follow-up videos as she filmed her and her family straightening up the place, saying: "Obviously I'm not going to post a really crappy video of my house being a mess and not post a video of me cleaning it."

In sped-up footage, she tackled the kitchen and dining room, while she picked up trash, cleared the floor and loaded the dishwasher.


bed time for kids not me. I'm done for the night 😂

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In a part two of the deep-clean she revealed she was "exhausted," as she captioned the clip: "Bedtime for kids not me. I'm done for the night."

She filmed her house revealing the cleaning was "nearly done," as she still had vacuuming and some of the kitchen left to clean.

Just last year an Ipsos survey found American parents claimed it was harder raising kids today than it was 20 years ago.

"Sixty-nine percent of parents in the United States declared that parenthood today was generally harder. Specifically, 88 percent of respondents stated that it was more expensive, while some 67 percent felt there was more pressure than before," Statista noted overall.

While Ipsos added: "In addition to being more likely to be responsible for the majority of childcare in the household, mothers are more likely than fathers to believe parenting has become harder."

Newsweek reached out to James for comment.

File photo of messy kitchen.
File photo of messy kitchen. a mom has shared the state of her house after not cleaning for four days. brebca/Getty Images

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