Man Backed for Forbidding Wife's Friend From Seeing Her While She Breastfed

Commenters supported a man after he argued with his wife's friend because she wanted to vent to her while she was breastfeeding their newborn baby.

The anonymous man, known as u/Specific_Paint8017, posted about the incident on Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received nearly 11,000 upvotes and 900 comments.

In the post titled "AITA for following my mom's advice about my breastfeeding wife," the man said his wife recently gave birth but is having a hard time breastfeeding. He added that the baby is unable to latch onto a silicon nipple and doesn't like formula, but his wife isn't producing enough milk to feed.

Man helped wife with breastfeeding struggles
A man was praised online after sharing his desire to ease his wife's stress to increase her milk supply. Many commenters said the man was correct to keep a stressful friend of his wife's away. sutlafk/iStock

"My mom who was a midwife said it was because of stress and that my wife was too stressed out to make enough breastmilk," the post read. "The doctor and the lactation consultant confirmed that stress does impact the flow of milk."

There are many factors that contribute to breast milk production, one being overall stress levels. Studies show that the hormones released during stressful times can dramatically reduce an individual's milk supply.

Although his wife has six months of maternity leave, the man said her work has been "pinging" them but that his mom moved in to help them with the baby.

His mom has been making her food that can help with milk production, such as whole grains and vegetables. She's also been making sure his wife rests and gets enough sleep.

The man's mother suggested that his wife stay in a quiet, dim room and let her feel relaxed before feeding the baby.

"The important part is to start the process before the baby is hungry," the post read.

One day, his wife's childhood friend Becky came over to complain about her breakup and money problems.

"Becky is the worst type of soul sucking person. She makes a s**tty problem and runs to my wife to fix it," the post read. "My wife is reluctant to stand up to Becky because Becky was the only girl who didn't make fun of her in their childhood. That's because she treats my wife like her personal servant."

The man said Becky wanted him to call his wife downstairs to chat, but he refused and told her to leave because she was breastfeeding.

"She insisted and tried to sneak past me and enter our house. I told her that my wife was breastfeeding and that she could not be disturbed, as per my mom's suggestions," the post read.

He told Becky that her problems would stress out his wife and that if she wanted to come inside she couldn't talk about them. Becky then called the man "controlling" and a "momma's boy." His wife's other friends also texted him and called him an "a**hole."

"My wife says she doesn't care that I told her to leave but said I could be gentler about her problems," the post concluded.

Nearly 950 users commented on the post, many praising the man for being so supportive of his wife's breastfeeding efforts.

"As a woman who recently had supply issues due to stress, majorly NTA," one user commented.

"Good for you for looking out for your wife, especially since it seems like she wants to breastfeed and you're supporting this choice of hers," one commenter said.

"As a woman who lost what supply I had because of stress this is the most beautiful story of you supporting and protecting your wife and baby," one user wrote. "Kudos to mom for helping you. Oatmeal cookies and fenugreek tea all around!"

"Your wife has enough worries and stress right now to be bothered by some self centered user," another user commented. "If she's okay with what you did, who cares what Becky thinks?"

In February, Abbott—the country's biggest supplier of infant formula—had a recall on several of its brands. The recall came after an investigation was launched over fears that bacteria may have been present in the products.

The recall resulted in a national baby formula shortage that has left parents desperate and panicked about how to feed their babies.

On Monday, the Food and Drug Administration announced that it reached an agreement to allow Abbott Nutrition to resume production, which has been halted since February.

Newsweek reached out to u/Specific_Paint8017 for comment.