Mom Wanting Part of Inheritance After Not Getting Enough in Divorce Slammed

A mom asking for a slice of her child's inheritance because she felt she didn't get enough in her divorce settlement has been slammed online.

Her now grown-up child took to Mumsnet under username Worryinglyworried73, explaining how their parents split up when they were a teenager, and they're now in their late 40s.

Sadly they said: "My dad is ill and about to pass away and I stand to inherit a chunk of money.

"I live in a rented flat & have never owned a home so will likely try to buy somewhere using my inheritance as a deposit."

But their mom seems to see it as an opportunity to extract more money from her ex, as Worryinglyworried73 went on to say: "Cue my mother who somehow thinks she has a stake in that money.

"She basically said that she hopes I will give her some money as my father didn't give her enough when when they separated for me in terms of maintenance. It's like she can see pound signs.

"Aibu to think WTF? She had an inheritance from my grandparents & didn't give me a penny of that—her & my stepfather bought a new car & had some nice holidays.

"They own their home outright. I feel so outraged to be honest."

The poster, thought to be based in the U.K., share more background in comments, claiming their mom lives a comfortable lifestyle.

"It's not even like they aren't well off in retirement—they are fine. It just seems such a bloody bizarre thing to ask but I think it's related to the fact that my Dad went on to be quite successful & somehow she feels hard done by from 30 odd years ago," they fumed.

And they clarified that after the divorce their mom, who got remarried two years after the split, got half the marital home, raging she's being "wildly entitled."

Divorces are fairly common in modern society, with the Office for National Statistics (ONS) revealing there were 103,592 in 2020 in England and Wales.

Usually parties either have a clean break settlement, or ongoing spousal maintenance payments.

According to solicitors Clarke Willmott, judges can reopen finalized settlements in certain cases.

It has to meet certain criteria, such as: "A new event(s) occurs that invalidates the basis, or fundamental assumption, on which the original consent order was made.

"The new event(s) must have occurred within a relatively short time after the consent order was made.

Somehow she feels hard done by from 30 odd years ago."
Worryinglyworried73

"The request to re-open the financial settlement is made soon after the new event occurs.

"The appeal does not prejudice any rights to assets acquired by third parties (for example, if a house has been sold to an unconnected third party.)"

In this case, it would appear a significant amount of time has lapsed since the divorce, meaning his ex-wife wouldn't be able to pursue any claim legally.

The post, shared on Sunday, has racked up nearly 150 responses, and can be read here, as people agreed the mom was way out of line for trying to get a slice of her ex's assets after his death.

Ilikewinter wrote: "Yep 100% agree with you OP, that money is completely yours."

PugInTheHouse advised: "Ignore. I cannot even believe she'd ask. Maybe remind her that she gave you nothing if she brings it up again."

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Daretodenim wrote: "Totally ignore. That's incredible! Asking an adult child to top up maintenance from their childhood is outrageous."

Gamerchick said: "I wouldn't be saying anything. Just ignore her and do your thing. If she brings it up again, tell her you'll repay what she gave you from her inheritance."

Rainyskylight commented: "It's also outrageous because your poor Dad is currently still alive. I'm sorry that you're going through this, OP. Inheritances can bring out the worst of people at the very worst time."

ChiswickFlo thought: "Wow. That's next level greed and venality. Sorry about your dad."

GreekGod replied: "So sorry to hear about your dad. Yes, I do think her entitlement is astonishing. Just ignore her and do what you want to do. Good luck OP."

TankFlyBossW4lk added: "Please totally ignore her. Do not be guilted into giving her anything."

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File photo of woman holding money. A mom has been slammed for wanting a slice of inheritance after not getting enough in the divorce. Marina113/Getty Images