Internet Sides With Pregnant Stepmom Raging Her Kids Are Excluded at Dinner

A pregnant stepmom is fuming over a household dynamic that sees her and her partner eat with his kid, while her children have dinner alone.

The mom-to-be posted her frustration to Mumsnet, under username Leftie202, revealing that she and her partner live together, while he has one child from a previous relationship and she has three.

She explained: "My children are with us mon-fri, his fri-mon, apart from holidays where we have them all together for at least half the week."

Her kids are 13, 10 and 8, while his is 5. During the week her children eat around 5.30 or 6 p.m., then she and her partner eat alone later, around 7.30 p.m., when he returns from work.

"We both work full time so evenings are the only time we get really like most parents I guess," she admitted.

File photo of family eating dinner.
File photo of family eating dinner. A pregnant stepmom has raged only her kids are excluded from dinner. H. Armstrong Roberts/Getty Images

But on the weekends when her partner's son visited, they all ate their meal around 7.30 p.m.

She said: "My partner likes my children in bed by 7.30, so we can have some us time, that's fine, I totally agree with it, but at weekends for my step son it's different.

"He eats with us, and doesn't go up till 8.30-9. He's 5 if that makes a difference. My kids are a bit older, youngest being 8.

"I brought it up with my partner that I think his son should eat earlier then we eat separately like we do in the week, but he thinks I'm being absolutely ridiculous."

As she reflected, she added: "Just to add, in the holidays when we have all together, they all eat separately and go up, we eat tea just us 2.

"So it's only the weekends... but I don't think it's very fair to be honest. He has this rule for my children but not his own? Shouldn't it be the same for all of them?"

Since being shared on Friday the post has racked up more than 300 responses, and can be read here, as people echoed her thinking it was unfair.

JellyBellyNelly replied: "Your partner can always get another partner but your children will never have another mother. Get rid of the partner and start giving your children the respect they deserve as your children. Just why would you put up with us?!"

HogDogKetchup fumed: "Your husband is being ridiculous. It should be a rule for 'the kids' basically he prefers the company of his own child and not yours. I guess that's fine but it needs to work both ways."

Lickenchugget admitted: "I wouldn't be putting up with this, he has golden child syndrome. From experience, this won't change, take your kids and run. Then you can put your kids to bed when YOU want."

Skelligsfeathers simply said: "The whole family should be eating together."

Oneborneverydecade commented: "I'd be re-evaluating my relationship if my DH wanted my children out of the way every evening—but especially if the rule was different for his child. Your pre teen/teen kids must be spending a fair amount of time upstairs? Losing time in the evening is frustrating sometimes but imo it's part of being a parent."

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Littlebirdyouaresosweet pointed out: "He is clearly telling you who is the priority here... Leave and go make your dc yours.... Or imo you will regret it..."

While Herejustforthisone added: "He's treating your children differently and unfairly. And he's calling you names when you challenge him. F*** sake."

And SandyWedges said: "Eat with your own kids. It's important for your kids."

Eating with children is an important part of family life. The Great Ormond Street Hospital for Children in the U.K., where the family is thought to be based, stresses that eating at table is beneficial.

It said: "Where possible try to sit in the same place for meals. This could be in a high-chair or at a small table and chair. Sit with them so that they have company even if you are not eating too.

"Children enjoy structure and routine because it provides them with a sense of security. Feeding schedules help a child to develop regular patterns of appetite and ensure a child is well nourished throughout the day."

After the post blew up the mom shared a few updates in the comments, and she ended by saying: "Ok, so From Monday, I will be eating with my kids, dp can have his when he comes in, and my kids are not being sent upstairs before 8. If he doesn't like it, well I'll have to deal with that when it comes."

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