Outrage as Man Tells His Pregnant Wife He's 'In Love' With Her Sister

Whether it's your high school crush or your daughter's best friend, unrequited love can be a painful experience. But despite your inner turmoil, sometimes it really is best to keep your feelings to yourself.

One woman took to Reddit to share her heartbreak after her husband drunkenly confessed to being in love with her older sister—despite the fact she's six months pregnant.

Posting to the r/trueoffmychest forum on 20 June, user u/ThrowRavin explained that her husband began acting strangely after his sister-in-law got engaged, leading to the life-changing revelation.

In her post, the woman explained that she and her sister are close after surviving an abusive childhood together.

She wrote: "My sister was my protector and role model since no one of the adults were. She tried to shift my stepdad's abuse on her when he got drunk so he wouldn't hurt me.

"When she left for college she let me stay in her bed while she slept on the floor in her student room, the days I managed to run away from home. When I turned 16 she let me move in with her permanently. We never saw our parents again."

The poster said her husband and sister have very similar natures and interests and have always got along well, which was important to her as they're "her only family."

Everything seemed to be going well until the sister recently started dating a new man.

The poster's husband took an instant dislike to the new boyfriend, telling his wife that he "didn't think he was good enough" for her sister.

While having dinner with the pair, the sister's boyfriend got down on one knee and proposed. After they returned home, the poster found her "tipsy" husband crying in the living room.

She added: "I asked him what's going on and he told me that he was in love with my sister, has been for years, but that he knew how wrong this was.

"He told me that loved me very much and promised to be a good husband and father to our daughter."

 Man Tells Pregnant Wife He Loves Sister-in-Law
A stock photo of a pregnant woman crying on a sofa. The husband admitted he'd been in love with his wife's older sister "for years." Prostock-Studio/iStock/Getty Images Plus

Horrified, the woman found herself in a different predicament and was unsure whether to tell her sister or if her marriage was worth saving.

Asking for advice, she concluded her post: "I don't know what to do or how to feel about this. Nothing can be the same again but she's my only family and my best friend.

"I have been so blind now I see everything. Can I save this marriage? And my baby? I promised her a better life than the one I had."

A 2013 study identified four different types of unrequited love: a crush on someone unavailable, a crush on someone in close proximity, feelings for someone you're actively pursuing (but do not know if they reciprocate), pining for an ex and an unequal love relationship, where one partner in more emotionally-invested than the other.

Researchers found that unrequited love tended to be "less intense" than love that was reciprocated but caused more emotional turmoil. However, unrequited love is also four times more common than equal love, as successful romantic relationships are more enduring.

Redditors were quick to offer the woman support, with the post receiving almost 13,000 upvotes and more than 1,600 comments from users offering guidance. Many suggested separation, divorce, or couples counseling.

One user wrote: "Leave him. Your husband might say he wants you and the baby, but you will never truly know where he stands with your sister."

Another agreed, writing: "This isn't something he nor you could or should try to fix. I think you two should have a long talk and map out the future as co-parents. It sounds like your husband wants to be involved in the kids' life so co-parent."

While another commented: "Do couples counseling to figure out what YOU want to do. At this point, you get to decide if this relationship continues or if you want to live a different life."

Others begged the poster to not let her husband's behavior damage her relationship with her sister.

One wrote: "Remember how she fought for you, how she protected you, how she loved you.

"This is all on your husband. He's the one at fault. He's the one who's been nurturing an unrequited crush for years instead of either leaving you or dealing with it."

Newsweek reached out to u/ThrowRavin for comment, but the account has since been deleted.

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