'You Deceived Yourself': Woman Slammed for Calling Fiancé 'Jerk'

Commenters criticized a woman after she took to a popular internet forum to complain that what she thought was her fiancé's car and house were actually inherited by his 15-year-old daughter.

The anonymous woman, known only as u/AITA_516541, posted about her situation in Reddit's popular r/AmITheA**hole forum where it received nearly 8,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments in 11 hours, with many users criticizing her for being entitled and wanting a share in the girl's inheritance from her late mother.

In the post titled "AITA for calling my fiancé a jerk?" the woman, 28, explained that her fiancé, 38, proposed last week after two years of dating.

She said her fiancé has a 15-year-old daughter from a previous marriage and that her mother passed five years ago. The woman also said she has a six-year-old son from another relationship.

Woman slammed for calling fiancé "jerk"
A woman was criticized after complaining about her fiancé’s daughter's inheritance from her late mother. fizkes/iStock

Most widowed adults are most likely to be 65 or older, according to a 2021 U.S. Census Bureau report. While it is estimated that there are nearly 15 million widows living in the United States, more than 11 million are estimated to be older women who outlived their male significant others.

In the post, she explained that when they first started dating, she noticed her fiancé's daughter had the master bedroom in his home. She said she found it weird because she's never seen a child take the master.

"He brushed it off saying that the house was 'hers'' so it was normal she slept there, with no further explanation," the post read. "I thought he meant as in inheritance from when he passed away which still was weird because he was alive, but either way, I didn't say anything because we were only beginning and I knew it wasn't my business."

She said since they're now engaged, she told him she wanted to live with him before deciding on the wedding date. He agreed that she could move in or they could look into getting their own home because they "will have to do it regardless."

When she asked why they would move when he has a house, he said that it was his daughter's. The woman said she got mad and said it "wasn't fair" that he called it his daughter's house when he was planning to adopt her son and have them both move in.

She also explained that she wanted his daughter out of the master bedroom because it was "theirs."

"He got a little nervous and said that the house really belonged to his late wife and when she passed, the house became his daughters," the post read. "He has enough money for maybe 60% of a house, but that we will have to pay off the rest together."

The woman said she was "shocked' and said they could ask his daughter for the house since she is only 15 but he said no.

"I got angry and called him a jerk because he should've told me the truth before and he said that it's not like we will be homeless or anything, we still have 3 years and maybe 4 after that because his daughter will leave for college," the post read. "He said he has always known he has to move out and that's why he saved."

Her fiancé also said his car–a 2020 KIA which the woman said she "always uses"–will be his daughter's when she leaves for college.

"I called him a jerk again and left with my son to my parents house," the post read. "When I told my family my brother laughed because I talked and acted like a gold digger and called me an AH. I felt betrayed and lied, am I really TA? I think I'm justified."

In an update, the woman explained that her fiancé found the viral Reddit post and asked for his ring back.

"No need to keep commenting he'll come tomorrow to get his ring and his car, things are over," the update read.

Nearly 2,000 users commented on the woman's post, with the majority criticizing her for trying to push her fiancé's daughter out of her own house.

"YTA. He told you the house belonged to his daughter. That you chose to not ask what he meant and assumed he really owned it is your own fault. You deceived yourself," one user commented, receiving nearly 19,500 upvotes.

The user went on to explain that the car and house are inherited from her dead mother and that she is unreasonable for wanting a share of it.

"The girl has already lost her mother, but that's not enough–now you're demanding a share of her inheritance go to people the mother never even met. How can you think that's reasonable?" the user continued.

"It sounds like his wife did the right thing to insure [sic] that her daughter always has a home–considering you're now trying to push her out of it," another user added.

"Your brother is right, you sound like a gold digger," another user commented.

"Why do you feel entitled to your fiancé's late wife's house? It now belongs to their daughter," another comment read.

Newsweek reached out to u/AITA_516541 for comment.

Newsweek recently relayed a story about a man who was criticized after asking his fiancée to remove her tattoo memorializing her late husband and son.

Another inappropriate exchange with a widow went viral on Reddit after a woman explained that her late husband's coworker sent her "creepy" texts.

Newsweek also reported on another man who was slammed on Reddit after telling a widow that it was "weird" to keep her husband's ashes.