'How Dare You!': Man Slammed for Siding With Mom Over Pregnant Girlfriend

A dad-to-be has been told to get his "priorities in order" after taking his mom's side in an argument with his heavily pregnant girlfriend.

For many expectant moms, the strain of motherhood goes beyond the physical pain. Research from the CDC found 1 in 8 women experience symptoms of postpartum depression while a 2019 study published in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology identified a seven-fold increase in the number of depression diagnoses at delivery in 2015 compared with 2000.

With many women pushed to breaking point, it's important for friends, family and, in particular, partners to do everything they can to alleviate stress and create a calming environment at home.

However, one man has earned the ire of the internet after seemingly ignoring that advice when his girlfriend, who is 39 weeks pregnant, got embroiled in an argument with his mom.

A man arguing with a pregnant woman.
Stock image of a man arguing with a pregnant woman. A man has come under fire for taking his mom's side in an argument with his pregnant girlfriend. RyanKing999/Getty

According to a post upvoted over 13,000 times on Reddit, the man explained that his mom has been staying with them for the past week or so, so that there is "someone to take care of our three year old and cats when we go to hospital."

The man said his mom and his girlfriend "usually get along" but clashed during this recent stay after an argument over food. "My mom is an amazing cook, but admittedly she doesn't always cook the healthiest because growing up me and my brother hated vegetables," he explained.

He said his mom has "cooked dinner for us every night" since she arrived but one night, his girlfriend told her she would make their meal. His mom, however, insisted she cook, telling her "not to worry" as she "already had it planned."

The girlfriend refused to back down and instead suggested his mom cook for him, herself and their toddler while she cooked for herself as she "needed something special."

After some "back and forth" his girlfriend snapped and, in his words, "rudely said she just wanted to cook for herself."

As a result his mom has been left "extremely offended and hurt" while his girlfriend is similarly annoyed, telling her partner "she needs certain nutrients and foods right now" that his mom's meals just don't provide.

Though his pregnant partner explained her reasoning, the man said he opted to take his mom's side as she also offered to cook his girlfriend whatever she wanted and he felt that, ultimately, she was being "a bit dramatic" about needing to eat healthily.

Now the man is calling on his heavily pregnant partner to "apologize" to his mom—but for many on social media, it's his girlfriend who is owed the apology.

Countingpickles was incredulous. "You sided with your mother over your girlfriend aka the mother of your child...what kind of d*** move is that?" they said. "Are you looking to stay on the couch for eternity? You sir, need to get your priorities in order."

Princess_banana_ agreed writing: "Your mom has commandeered the kitchen and instead of backing up your girlfriend you've reverted back to mama's little boy. Grow up. Stand up for your girlfriend."

Blue-Cuttle tried to put themselves in his partner's shoes. "Your girlfriend might not feel good, and is eager to eat something that she knows will make her feel better," they explained. "Also, she is about to bring a human into the world, which can be a painful and scary experience. She might want to feel in control of her own space and boundaries right now."

Another user, unknown_928121, offered a more forthright response. "How dare you!" they said. "This woman opened up her home anticipating she'd get help and you couldn't support her! You couldn't stand up for her!"

Nibbler981, meanwhile, warned the man he had made a "huge mistake" in siding with his mom. "Your girlfriend is fully entitled to cook for herself in HER home. Your mom needed to accept that... Your girlfriend has nothing to apologize for, but both you and your mother do."

Newsweek has contacted the original poster for comment.